It’s time for a big change in our lives. My daughter is just about ready to go to preschool. First we wanted to wait a little longer because of moving plans. But we had to delay them. So we decided to send her to school anyway. But I have to say, it’s with a heavy heart. I find it very difficult to let her go. But we feel that she needs a new challenge.
A Difficult Moment
I think it’s going to be so hard, on her and on me. Since I’m a stay at home mom, I’ve always had her with me and we spend a lot of time together. She never went to daycare or even her grandparents. I’ve never had to trust her to another person. It’s such a horrible feeling that a strange person is going to be responsible for her, and even when she does a good job, it will always be less than what we do for her.
But we made the decision and I think she would really benefit from it so we have to get through this period. After a few weeks it will get easier to let her go, I know that. And of course I realize I can’t keep her close to me her whole life. But in my heart I’m a helicopter parent I guess, but I’ll gladly fight that urge for her benefit.
Because we decided last minute she will be starting school in only a week, we have some preparations to do. Upside: it will be quick pain. But it also means I only have a few days to prepare everything.
Things to think about
- Put your kid’s name in their clothes, so if the teacher needs to change them they can’t mix their clothes with someone else’s and lose something. Don’t forget their shoes and now that it’s winter, their scarf and hat. I got labels in a fun color and with small animals on them, which she got to choose!
- Put labels on their backpack, lunchbox, water bottle,… (actually everything you give them to school)
- I bought her a new backpack and not the one we use on the weekends so she knows the difference. If you go and buy a backpack, take them with you so they can help you pick one. [Making choices is important]
- Get everything they need to take to school to eat and drink. Best choices are dry biscuits, nothing with chocolate. Also, fruit, cut up vegetables and of course water to drink and maybe a juice box or milk.
- Ask the school if they can bring their favorite teddy bear, so they have a little comfort that reminds them of home.
- If you can, let them dip their toes with half days so they can still have their nap and transition into the new situation.
- You can also read books with them about going to school. They’ll get a sense of what to expect.
- Try to potty train your child before school, at least so they know the concept of the potty.
- Try to take a look at the school with your little one before they start. That way, they can better understand the concept of school, when you talk about it.
There’s a lot to think about and if it’s your first, like me, you don’t know what to expect from a first day of school.
Try to see it as a positive thing
It will be a big change, you fine-tuned a schedule over the last few years and now it’s going to be a whole new one.
But it’ll also be nice to have those few extra hours for myself so I can do all the stuff I need to do without interruptions and then when she comes home, we can spend quality time together.
I will keep you guys posted on how it went …